If there is a primary presenting problem that couples bring to the counseling office it is that they have a communication problem. The word communication is from the same Latin words from which we get the word community, cum (with) and unitas (unity). Community describes people living with unity. There is something that uniquely connects … Continue reading The Key to Communication
When I counsel couples preparing for marriage and detect a pattern of conflict, I get concerned. This concern is not because I do not expect there to be arguments in marriage. Not at all. My concern is that the couple may be going into marriage with a mindset that marriage will fix their problems. Conflict … Continue reading Marriage Maintenance 101: Resolving Conflict
You know that a business is doing something right when it reaches the fifty year mark. It has sustained strong and weak economies, up times and down. To endure for fifty years is a major accomplishment in any industry. The same is true for marriage. Both sets of my wife's grandparents were married for over … Continue reading The Secret to the 50-Year Marriage
ion of From the forthcoming book, The Love Triangle: How Union with Christ Transforms the Union of Marriage. When my wife and I married, someone gave us a Heartleaf Philodendron, which is also called the Sweetheart Plant. Perfect for a newly married couple, right? We potted the philodendron in a fashionable, ceramic Gail Pitman bowl … Continue reading The Love Triangle
Here is the graphic Johnny Long used a couple of years ago at Creekstone to diagram how the love triangle of marital intimacy works. Thanks, Johnny!
Thanks to Melisa Woznicki for posting this on FB. It hits the nail right on the head. 🙂
This is the audio from Creekstone's recent Grace-Centered Marriage Seminar led by my wife, Kristy, and me. It was geared for engaged couples and newleyweds, but is applicable for folks at any stage of marriage. Covering both theological and practical issues, we hope that this material is helpful toward facilitating a more grace-centered experience of … Continue reading Grace-Centered Marriage Seminar (audio)
Here are ten simple reflections from a marriage conference led by Dr. Jonny and Becky Long a while back at Creekstone. 1. Intimacy in marriage begins with intimacy with God as Abba, Father. Quality "face-time" with the Father sets up quality "fact-time" with my spouse. The closer and more intimate I am with the Father, … Continue reading Ten Simple Reflections on Marriage
Today's guest blogger is author, Dr. Gary Chapman, who shares with us what he calls The Five Levels of Communication. Just as it is helpful to identify certain communication patterns, it is also helpful to understand that various levels of communication exist. All communication is not equal in value. Some levels of communication foster greater intimacy than … Continue reading The Five Levels of Communication
This is part 2 is our 7 week series called The Marriage Expedition: Essential Supplies for the Journey. This message focuses on communication, and how the most important aspect is not talking, but listening.
Here are three of the secondary resources that we will be using to compliment our study of the Bible on Sunday mornings over the next seven weeks as we explore the topic of marriage in Creekstone's new teaching series, The Marriage Expedition: Essential Supplies for the Journey. The Meaning of Marriage, Tim Keller When Sinners … Continue reading Marriage Series Resources
Hello Creekstone friends, This Sunday we begin a new teaching series entitled The Marriage Expedition: Essential Supplies for the Journey. I really think that this is going to be helpful for married folks (long term and those just out of the gate) as well as one-day-to-be-married folks. Consider it a pre-marriage course for some, a … Continue reading An Update About This Coming Sunday, Oct. 7
Plan to join us this Sunday for the start of a new teaching series on marriage. This would be a great Sunday to invite a friend to Creekstone for the first time!
You do know that if it were up to us, being reconciled to God would be on our shoulders. That’s how we operate, isn’t it—we bless those who meet demands, perform their duty, and fulfill their obligations. But thankfully, that is not how God operates. The gospel tells us that rather that calling us to … Continue reading If It Were Up to Us
Below are questions that John Piper, Pastor for Preaching and Vision at Bethlehem Baptist Church in Minneapolis, MN, compiled for folks considering marriage. It is not exhaustive, but a good start. Theology What do you believe about...everything? Perhaps read through [the Gospel Coalition's theological summary] to see where each other is on various biblical doctrines. Discover … Continue reading What To Ask Before You Say “I Do”
At a Key Life pastor's conference, Dan Allender, said, "The Christian faith and the grace at its heart is so radical that most congregations can't deal with it." I will raise my hand to confess that I am one of those who wants to believe the gospel at a radical depth, but who struggles. Fear … Continue reading God’s Drastic, Offensive, Liberating, Shocking and Counterintuitive Grace
Like an automobile that will break down without maintenance, every marriage needs a realignment and tune up now and then. These resources have helped me and I trust will be a blessing to you as well. Just click on an image above to go to its page on Amazon.
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REGISTER HERE "A Special Conference on the Grace-Centered Marraige" September 16-17, 2011 at the Dahlonega Marketplace On the Historic Square in Downtown Dahlonega, GA Schedule: Friday, Sept. 16 - 7:00 p.m. — 9:30 p.m. Saturday, Sept. 17 - 9:00 a.m. — Noon “It was the best of times and it was the worst of times.” … Continue reading Grace-Centered Marriage Conference Information
These lectures may be the best teaching on the gospel-centered marriage available. They are by my Sonship/World Harvest Discipleship Mentor, Stu Batstone, and his wife, Ruth Ann. Listen as a couple for the greatest benefit, and enjoy.
Many of us have heard of Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages. These five languages actually provide five ways to demonstrate practical love in marriage. So today, instead of a to do list, make a "love in action" list and implement these five opportunities to show love. 1. Encourage your spouse verbally. This can … Continue reading Five Ways to Show Practical Love to Your Spouse Today
Living the gospel is risky business. It means that we have no personal righteousness to defend anymore; nor anything to prove. The (ideal) result is a individual who is humble and teachable... and this means critiqueable. This person knows he/she is saved by grace and has more flaws and sinful tendencies than he/she is even aware. When … Continue reading Questions to Ask Your Spouse
Since this is my major "sermon prep day," I just want to post something quick and simple, but potentially marriage transforming. As part of our weeklong marriage resource week, the book that I most recommend is When Sinners Say I Do: Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage, by Dave Harvey. In a nutshell, … Continue reading When Sinners Say “I Do”