It is Father's Day 2017 and I am away from the crew I love the most, my wife and three children. Typically, we all go together to our family cottage in Tennessee for two weeks each June. However, this year, while they were with me here in the cottage last week, numerous forces collided to … Continue reading Reflections on Being a Father
There are two primary ways to parent kids. One strategy is to focus behavior modification. This is by far the leading and most popular approach. More than anything else, behavior modification wants children to obey, or at least be quiet, or be still, or whatever will bring us peace. So we count to three, raise … Continue reading Two Very Different Parenting Strategies
Part 1: The Goal of Christian Parenting Part 2: Grace Grows Godliness Part 3: Redemptive Discipline Part 4: Heart Inspectors
This is message #4 in our parenting series, Generation NEXT. The focus is to be heart inspectors so that we can help our children understand, embrace and apply the grace of God in Jesus to their hearts in deep and life transforming way.
This is an emotion chart produced by The Wellspring Group. It helps us identify how we are feeling so that we can engage the heart more deeply as well as the hearts of our children. This heart engagement allows God to use our emotions to expose us to the gospel at the heart level.
Here are the eight applications from last Sunday's message, Redemptive Discipline, that relate to dealing with disobedience in light of the gospel. To listen to the message, just go here. Recognize the wisdom of the parenting pyramid Equip for what we require Expect first time obedience Consider context Provide an appeal process Discern the diff … Continue reading 8 Applications from Last Sunday’s Message
This is message #3 in our parenting series, Generation NEXT. Lots of application in light of the gospel that I hope will be helpful.
This Sunday morning we will be discussing discipline in message #3 of our "not just for parents, parenting series," Generation NEXT. The main idea is that we should stop punishing our children, and start disciplining them. What? Is there a difference? Absolutely. Let me explain. Punishment is retributive and vengeful, while discipline is redemptive and … Continue reading Sunday Sermon Preview
We are all familiar with the impact of second-hand smoke. But what about second-hand stress? In a recent survey, researcher Ellen Galinsky interviewed more than 1,000 children in grades 3-12 and asked them, "If you were granted one wish to change the way your mother's/father's work affects your life, what would that wish be?" Kid's … Continue reading The Impact of Second-Hand Stress
This is message #2 is our sermon series, Generation NEXT.
IMHO, this is THE best book on parenting available.
Steve Smith, in The Jesus Life (David C. Cook, 2012), pp. 153-154, provides some interesting information on the impact of having family meals together. He writes: The Council of Economic Advisers to the President reported, "The largest federally funded study of American teenagers found a strong association between regular family meals (five or more dinners … Continue reading Let’s Eat! The Impact of Having Family Meals Together
Hey parents, let’s put down the laptop, phone and iPad for a minute and go find one of our kids, look ‘em in the eyes, and say, “You know what, I’m so glad you are my son/daughter.” That’s it. If they ask, “Why?” say, “Just because you are mine.” Not because he is fast or … Continue reading A Gift for Our Children
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At a Key Life pastor's conference, Dan Allender, said, "The Christian faith and the grace at its heart is so radical that most congregations can't deal with it." I will raise my hand to confess that I am one of those who wants to believe the gospel at a radical depth, but who struggles. Fear … Continue reading God’s Drastic, Offensive, Liberating, Shocking and Counterintuitive Grace
I am reading a newly released book by Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson, Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus. Although I am only half-way through, I can say with confidence that this is the best book on parenting I have ever read. The best (and yes, I have read the … Continue reading Best Parenting Book Ever (IMHO)
This is a post from August of 2009. In light of Sunday's message, I thought it was timely enough to repost:I love it when my children are obedient. Now, don’t get me wrong. They are not always obedient— far from it! (After all, they are my kids, and the apple doesn’t fall far from the … Continue reading The Goal of Christian Parenting
In light of yesterday's message, Gospel-Centered Parenting, I wanted to provide a couple of helpful resources for parenting. Tedd Tripp's Shepherding a Child's Heart (for younger children), and Paul Tripp's Age of Opportunity (for parenting teens). See the full gallery on Posterous
In lecture #5 of Sonship, Jack Miller is brutally honest about his failure in parenting, saying, "My great sin against my daughter Barbara was that I did not reach her [heart]. I didn't try to. I was really concerned about outward behavior, thinking that if I worked on the outward behavior, it would work inward. … Continue reading The Best Gift a Parent Can Give
A grace-centered parenting conference with Paul Tripp will be held at Perimeter Church the weekend of January 22-23. For more information and to register, go here.
The Bible is pretty clear that parents, and fathers in particular, are called to disciple their own children. We see this from Dueteronomy 6, to Solomon's Proverbs, to Ephesians 6, where Paul writes, "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the nurture and instruction of the Lord." Yes, there … Continue reading Suggestions on Discipling Our Own Kids